Here's the deal...venting session begin:
I was at a fraternity's date party friday night. All was well, having fun, being dressed up, enjoying everyone's company....until some girl decided to ruin the entire night. This may sound slightly catty but frankly I don't care because it is girls like these that make me react in two ways: I hate being in Greek Life - or - I want so bad to change the way Greeks within the same system perceive each other.
So my boyfriend and I were dancing, chillen, having fun. This girl whos chapter and name will remain anonymous (mind you i've never even met the girl before) decides to come up and try to makeout with him right in front of me. Luckily I have a great guy and he stopped her before anything could happen. Strike One.
Naturally I had to use the restroom, so I went upstairs and what do ya know...the same girl is there. I do my business and leave keeping to myslelf and she decides to start b****ing at me saying that I am ugly and not as good as she is. Strike Two.
Lastly, still keeping my classy composure I do my best to ignore her and brush is off. I walk downstairs back to my friends with this trailing in my ear "Yeah keep walking. You're just mad and jealous you're not top tier!!!" Strike Three.
It took everything in me to keep walking and pretend she just didn't say that. It is people like her that get me so angry because I honestly believed that we have all graduated high school and that kind of behavior and remarks were all in the past. And it is people like her that makes me appreciate the wonderful women in my sorority that do not act so immature and just plain dumb and make me so glad that i didn't make the mistake of joining one that feels like they are above others. I'm not saying that I am better that her, but am saying that she is not better than me. As an observation, I feel like the only ones who use the "tiered" way of thinking are those individuals who post things on greekrank.com, refer to themselves at top tier to make them feel better because as stated in a speech at AFLV, those who make themselves feel better by putting others down have very low self-esteem and confidence, and fraternities who are only concerned with hanging out with a select number of sororities.
This night made me want to try to figure out a way to abolish stupid things like the one that happened to me from happening to others. It's so unnecessary and just reaffirms that some people are so ignorant and live in a bubble that isn't parallel with reality.
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Wow. You are so much more controlled than I am. If that ever happened to me, I would most likely freak out. It says a lot about your character that you were able to keep your outward composure even with that girl harassing you. I'm honestly proud that I know someone like you. I think you handled it the best you could, and you're right - girls like that make me sick. They have no right to be greek, and her sisters really to whip her into shape. Who does she think she is? I wasn't even there and I'm getting angry just thinking about the situation... But really, kudos to you. I can't even imagine what I would have said to her..
ReplyDeletePS - You already know this, but you aren't ugly. So ignore this girl and remember that you're beautiful. :)
Jackie, you are awesome! It really is sad that people act like that. The fact of the matter is 4 years from now, no one will care where her sorority ranked. She might, but the only thing people will care about is that she's still rude (Hopefully, she isn't by then). Like Steve Birdine said, "Dude...that was 23 years ago."
ReplyDeleteTell me that girl's name and she is done for (just joking, I sound tough but its just an exterior front). Jackie - any guy who can you his girlfriend is extremely lucky to do so. Ever since we have been on council together, minus the countless emails I can send to you in one day, you just make everything more fun and enjoyable.
ReplyDeleteI wish I read your blog before my roundtable last night. I was in front of all of the recruitment chairs talking about leadership and barriers. I explained to them that they took the initiative to be on their executive boards and they in turn show leadership qualities that are essential to a chapter. I proceeded to say that the breaking down of barriers between sorority women can be broken down starting with the leaders of a chapter. I feel that if at our round tables we make it run and enjoyable and pretty much force women to become friends like we all have, things can and will be different. I gave the women some homework. I asked them to go home and think about what I said and to come back next Monday with expectations for me and for themselves. I will let you know how this goes.
Coming from I guess what we can say "a lower tier sorority on greekrank.com" - I got your back girl, promise!